I am AMAZED how just these few things picked up the mood of the room! So much more warmth and cheerful.
Just the perk I needed while waiting for warmer weather.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Color Needed!!
Since spring has decided not to make an appearance till maybe summer I decided the best way to cheer me up was to add some color to my Beige on beige living room. I went with orange accents!. A couple of orange pillows.
A nice orange rug in front of the couch!
A couple of new lampshades.Like the one below,
And best of all I put up new art work above the couch and got rid of an old picture that I was never all that fond of but had sentimental value. Hard to let go of that stuff.
I am AMAZED how just these few things picked up the mood of the room! So much more warmth and cheerful.
Just the perk I needed while waiting for warmer weather.
I am AMAZED how just these few things picked up the mood of the room! So much more warmth and cheerful.
Just the perk I needed while waiting for warmer weather.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Grief
After having a couple heart to hearts with my offspring lately it has come to my attention that sometimes the people closest to you are the most ill equipped to help you through the loss of a loved one. Sure they can be there to love you and well,just love you. But because of their own grief over the loss of that person ,they may not be the person to hold you up at that time.
Grief,its so individual and personal that no one person makes their way through it exactly the same as the next. BUT that does not mean that the struggle is not the same. Grief never ends it just takes on different colors as time goes by. It will be 16 years this August since the loss of my father. Yes ,the sharpness of grief has lessened with time. But the loss is still felt daily. I will try out a new restaurant and automatically think "Oh,Dad would love this place" Or I'll have a hard day and think "Wish I could talk to dad about this" Or my daughter graduates with her Masters and I think "oh Mom and Dad would be so proud to see her today"
It never ends,and it never will.
The other day I was especially down and started talking to my Dad. Yes you do talk to loved ones after they pass on.Well,I do. And I don't see anything wrong with it. No,I haven't heard any voices back. Once in awhile I "think" I feel an emotion from them. A feeling.... Wishful? Maybe,who knows. I choose to believe in it. I did have a "visit" from my father about two weeks after his passing,but that is a post for another day.
Yes grief,an emotion that can paralyze you and for some people alter their lives so completely that they can't function for the rest of their lives. For most of us ,we deal with it and get back to the business of living. We all know none of our loved ones want us hurting at their loss to the point that it stops us from living fully the rest of our life.So we try hard to carry the love we have for them in our hearts and remember the good times the best we can . And if there were bad times or unfinished business with the lost loved one we also have to move on . Regret,another emotion that walks hand and hand with grief.
Life,I haven't figured it out at all. You do get wiser with age in many ways. You find out that certain things are just not worth carrying to long on your shoulders. Shrug it off. But get any closer to figuring out what this life is all about? Well I haven't. Sure I know that loveing each other is the most important thing. Stop being selfish and extend yourself to help others that have it worse than you. But suffering and illness never seems to be dealt out fairly and that is the biggest thing about life that I doubt I will ever understand.
Yes grief ,the hardest part of life,without a doubt.
Grief,its so individual and personal that no one person makes their way through it exactly the same as the next. BUT that does not mean that the struggle is not the same. Grief never ends it just takes on different colors as time goes by. It will be 16 years this August since the loss of my father. Yes ,the sharpness of grief has lessened with time. But the loss is still felt daily. I will try out a new restaurant and automatically think "Oh,Dad would love this place" Or I'll have a hard day and think "Wish I could talk to dad about this" Or my daughter graduates with her Masters and I think "oh Mom and Dad would be so proud to see her today"
It never ends,and it never will.
The other day I was especially down and started talking to my Dad. Yes you do talk to loved ones after they pass on.Well,I do. And I don't see anything wrong with it. No,I haven't heard any voices back. Once in awhile I "think" I feel an emotion from them. A feeling.... Wishful? Maybe,who knows. I choose to believe in it. I did have a "visit" from my father about two weeks after his passing,but that is a post for another day.
Yes grief,an emotion that can paralyze you and for some people alter their lives so completely that they can't function for the rest of their lives. For most of us ,we deal with it and get back to the business of living. We all know none of our loved ones want us hurting at their loss to the point that it stops us from living fully the rest of our life.So we try hard to carry the love we have for them in our hearts and remember the good times the best we can . And if there were bad times or unfinished business with the lost loved one we also have to move on . Regret,another emotion that walks hand and hand with grief.
Life,I haven't figured it out at all. You do get wiser with age in many ways. You find out that certain things are just not worth carrying to long on your shoulders. Shrug it off. But get any closer to figuring out what this life is all about? Well I haven't. Sure I know that loveing each other is the most important thing. Stop being selfish and extend yourself to help others that have it worse than you. But suffering and illness never seems to be dealt out fairly and that is the biggest thing about life that I doubt I will ever understand.
Yes grief ,the hardest part of life,without a doubt.
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